No discussion mode
Your nervous system is in protection mode.
This is not the best state for solving the conflict. A pause is not abandonment. The goal is to reduce damage and return.
Choose a pause
Low-pressure reconnection
You do not need to solve everything immediately.
Pressure can make shutdown worse. Send one small signal of connection, then reduce stimulation.
Safety stop
This is not a repair moment.
If there are threats, intimidation, coercion, violence risk, or fear of retaliation, do not use a couples repair flow. Prioritize distance, outside support, and local emergency resources if needed.
Move to a safer place if you can.
Contact a trusted person or local support line.
Do not negotiate safety inside the conflict.
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